Written By: Debbie Stokes
There’s a saying, “Quitters never win and winners never quit.” I know most of you have heard that before. It’s that moment when you are close to the finish line of something great and you are ready to give up. Why? Because it’s a struggle. Because obstacles are in your way. Because people are telling you that you can’t do it or it’s impossible. Because you are tired of fighting. Because it’s causing you to cry, to sweat, to bleed. Because it’s taking your body and mind to limits it has not seen before. Each step closer becomes harder and harder. The weight is getting heavier and you find yourself having to pull more, to push more, to fight more almost to the point of exhaustion and burnout. Your muscles hurt. Your bones hurt. Your feet hurt. Your body hurts. Your vision is clouded. Your mind is straggling the fence between do I quit or do I keep going with your body crying for you to stop. In that moment… what do you do? How do you keep going?
I have come up with some things within you that I think are needed to finish. These things are going to be necessary when you are so close to finishing that you can almost taste it, smell it, see it, and feel it. No matter what that great thing is you are trying to accomplish and that is within your grasp, you have to be willing to not stop… no matter what. Look at all the work you’ve put in. Think about the pain you have endured. Think about the hurdles you’ve crossed. Think about everybody who told you that you couldn’t. Think about what it will feel like to finish.
These are the 5 things I think are necessary for you to tap into your powers and finish what you started.
Your mind is a powerful thing. It can be a trigger for winning or losing. Dying or living. Fighting or giving up. The most important thing to note is that the mind is where it all starts.
Men and women are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds. – Franklin D. Roosevelt
We each have an innate thing inside of us that makes us who we are. That pushes us. That drives us. That defines us. We must learn to tap into it. That’s where you gain your power. Your strength. Your momentum. Your why. Your goal should be to continually develop yourself. Everyday, you should be working on you, your purpose, your dream, and that great thing you really want. It has to be your fight. Nobody can do it for you.
Yes, there will be times when anything that can go wrong… will. You have to understand you will get knocked down sometimes, but it’s not the knocking down that will define you; It’s how you get back up and keep going. Anybody can make it when everything is going good in their lives, but what about when challenges come. When, figuratively speaking, everything around you is on fire. How do you make it? The only way is by understanding you have to first change your mind. But realize the change is not going to be easy, anything worth it never is. If it was everybody would and could do it. Another thing, keep in mind, there will be people, things, and the enemy trying to distract you from finishing. So, what do you do? You keep going despite everything and everybody trying to block you. Remember, your destiny, your road, your plan, your purpose is yours. So, finish.
When you are in a fight to keep going. You are going to have to dig deep from within to find that place in you that breeds determination and drive… Your heart. The place where compassion and courage live. Your heart is what separates you from everybody else. I’m not talking about your tangible heart; I’m talking about your driven heart. It’s what allows you to challenge yourself and helps drive your passion to keep you going. It develops your momentum to not quit. Your heart is what kicks in and teams up with your mind to keep pushing you forward beyond your limits. At the point when you want to give up or are about to quit, you must tap into your heart to help drive you pass your doubts and fears. This is the point when most people stop and give up. When most people can’t bear the agony and pain. When most people can’t handle the rejection. When most people get tired of fighting. But like the saying goes again, “Quitters never win and winners never quit.” So be committed. Go all in. You may feel isolated. You may lose friends and family who don’t understand your vision. But that’s life. Everyone is not supposed to go where you are going, do what you do, or understand your why. That’s what makes you different. At the time when it gets hard and doubt starts setting in, you have to pump on the accelerator, press full speed ahead and put your blinders on, so you can be laser focused towards accomplishing your end goal to finish what you started.
When you think about spirit, what comes to mind? For this discussion, I’m referring to your “can do” spirit. The spirit that you can do all things through Christ. The knowing that if it’s for you… you won’t stop until you get it. The belief that no matter what, you will do everything humanly possible to achieve it, and then using prayer to help push you further. You have to realize the only way you will never achieve what you want is because you let obstacles get in your way, whether it was by your thoughts and actions or the actions and distractions of others. Of course, there are life obstacles: health issues, death, house loss or anything life-altering. You know the things that knock you down and try to smother the very heart of your belief system. It is at this point when you are tested. When your character is developed. When your strength is developed. When your doubts and fears are separated from your growth and desire. When the serious people rise and the not so serious weaken.
If you faint in the day of adversity, your strength is small. Proverbs: 24:10
At this point, when you are trying to finish, you are probably feeling like you are in a tight space. Maybe even feeling a little hopeless that you can’t finish or that you don’t have what it takes to finish what you started. But I beg to differ, I say you do have what it takes. You can do it. Everything you need is inside you. Every answer is inside you. Every question is inside you. Every possibility is inside you. All the power you need is inside you. At this point, you have to dig deeper, smarter, and harder. It doesn’t matter what people think about you. What matters is what you think about yourself. The only person who can get in your way is you. Be fearless. Be purposeful. Be driven and finish.
This one is super important because how can you be headed somewhere if you have no idea where you are going or how to get there. Vision helps you overcome the things that happen to you. It helps you see pass the adversities that come your way. It keeps you focused forward, not towards the left, or right, or what’s behind you. I am reminded by the scripture,
Where there is no vision, the people perish. Proverbs 29:18
When I talk about vision in this context, I’m not talking about what you see with your eyes. I’m talking about the deeper sight through your perception, your dream, and your revelations. I’m talking about the vision that can help elevate you pass your roadblocks and dilemmas, pass your second-guessing, pass your naysayers, pass your past, and pass your pain. You must realize that you are destined for greatness, but it’s not until you realize it that you will obtain it. And know this, your vision doesn’t have to make sense to anybody else, so never let anyone block what you’re trying to accomplish. In fact, you should never tell your vision to people who can’t help you anyway. Protect it. Sometimes, you may not fully understand your vision, but there is something inside you that won’t let it go. Understand, your vision is for you and you are the only one who can stand in the way of achieving it. Once you have set your vision, changed your mindset, developed your heart, and dug deep into your “can do” spirit, you are just about there, but you still have to push harder. So, do what it takes to finish, you have just a little more way to go. You can do it.
It is at this point when people pass out. When their desire to succeed outweighs anything that can stop them, Think about a marathon race, when a struggling runner is almost at the finish line… his body is trembling, sweat is pouring, he’s losing body functions, his sight is clouded, his knees are weaken, his breathing is struggling, his hope and fight is deteriorated; but then something inside won’t let him quit. Something inside tells him to keep fighting. This is when most people quit. But you have to be like the runner when you are trying to finish. YOU CAN’T QUIT. You mustn’t give up. This is the moment where your power is manifested, where your strength meets courage, and your conviction brings the ability to fight pass your limits and abilities. At this point, you are tested by how bad you want it. By your will to win. At this point, you have to use everything that tried to stop and discourage you, every bad experience, every person that told you no, every negative situation, every roadblock, every doubt as fuel to fire you up. Where you burn from within and you think you can’t go any longer, but you rise above your pain. You rise above your situations. You rise above that which has kept you from moving forward until you find just at the pivotal moment you make it. You cross the line. You finish what you started. At this point, you can breathe. Now is the time. Go finish what you started. You can do it!
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