Hard is the Price of Admission

Article Contributed and Written By: Lisa Reck

Hi! I’m Lisa Reck. I have a passion for life and dreams and everything in between. I’m a wife to my amazing husband and a mom to 4 wonderful boys. My passion is inspiring and helping others to live their best life always. Life is meant to be lived to its fullest, to enjoy every moment, and to embrace every storm.

You’ll easily catch me outdoors in the summer. I am in love with hot summer days, poolside afternoons, and drinking coffee on my deck in the mornings. It’s where I do my best work, have my most inspired thinking, and have my good for the soul moments in nature. My family has my heart. They are my reasoning for all that I do.

My goal is to show my kids how to go after their dreams, and that anything in life is possible when they put their mind and action behind it.

Hard is the price of admission. I wish I had heard these words years ago. I would have viewed my life so differently. I had a hard life growing up. I struggled with believing in myself, I struggled with how others viewed me, I struggled to have friends, and I struggled to deal with a broken family. The list of obstacles at one time seemed never-ending.

When I was 11 years old, my entire life came crashing down. A time in my life when I should have only been concerned with bedtimes, sleepovers and playing barbies, I was instead living a nightmare. My oldest brother had been tragically murdered. This changed the whole trajectory of my life. One. Single. Moment. That’s all it took. My faith in the world, in my family, in God, and in myself had all changed.

Being a kid and dealing with all the emotions death brings, but also trying to understand what was happening was something I couldn’t comprehend. So, I unknowingly slid into a shell. I became very shy and quiet. I hid behind fake smiles and pretended my life was fine, when on the inside, it was far from it. I had built a wall to hide behind never exposing the real me.

My brother’s death led to my parents divorcing a few years later, which caused my mother to fall into a lifelong battle with depression. Looking back now, I realize I never really had a childhood. I became an adult at 11 years old. I had to deal with real traumas and real emotions. I grew up so much faster than I should have or wanted to.

My oldest brother was my biggest role model and still is. He was 19 years old when he was killed, just 5 days after graduating high school. What makes me the saddest when I think back on his life was that he had set huge life goals for himself, and was never able to achieve them. I look at my younger self, as well as others, and realize most people don’t set goals for themselves, and they don’t have dreams for their future. Unfortunately, most people don’t know how to set goals.

My brother had dreams of becoming a professional singer in a heavy metal band (mind you, this was back in the nineties). He had been writing songs for years and was the lead singer of a band. They played a lot of local night clubs. He had such an incredible voice. Unfortunately, that had all been taken from him.

I made a realization one day that life is too short and I was tired of playing small. I was tired of going through the motions of just letting life happen to me.

CLARITY

I knew I was tired of taking a backseat in my own life. Yet, I didn’t know what I wanted out of life. What was going to fulfill me? What I was passionate about? I really had no clue. I dabbled at a few things. I went to medical business school thinking I could find happiness through success. I started my own business for a direct sales company. Even that only lasted about a year, so I continued to feel stuck. I wanted to feel passionate about something, but I didn’t know what that looked like for me. Even though I had tried a few things that didn’t work out, it didn’t mean I was giving up. Until one day it hit me, since my brother was unable to fulfill his dreams, I was going to do it for him. So, I decided to write a book and finish the last chapter of his life.

I had never written a book before. I had no idea what I was doing, but I finally knew what passion felt like. And so, I started writing like crazy. I had decided I would self-publish it, and not tell anyone what I was doing. Remember the wall I told you I hid behind as a kid? Well, I wasn’t ready to break that wall down, but yet, I wanted to write this book for my brother.

So, I spent the better part of 6 months writing this book. Whenever I thought I was finished, it still felt like something was missing. After writing and rewriting it repeatedly, I realized I was sharing more than just my brother’s story, I was sharing his message.

In order to achieve your dreams, you’ve got to get clear on what it is you want. Vague answers get you vague results. It’s not always easy finding clarity, but I promise you, you will find it. Start journaling, start meditating, start listening to other people’s inspiring stories. You already have the answer inside you, you just need to bring it to life.

OVERCOMING LIMITING BELIEFS

When I realized my brother’s death taught me how to overcome the hardships life throws at us, I needed to share it with others. Yet, who was I to tell others how to heal? Why would anyone listen to me? These were my limiting beliefs talking. Overcoming your limiting beliefs is not easy. It’s hard work.

I had many doubts about whether I should publish this book or not. I had so many fears about it, that it kept me up at night. I had written personal detailed stories of my life, and shared some of my deepest thoughts and fears. I provided advice to others on how to use gratitude and forgiveness to get through the obstacles they were facing. What if people reading it didn’t get the same value that I did?

Limiting beliefs kill more dreams than failure ever will. I was afraid to try. I was afraid to fail. I had all these voices in my head telling me I wasn’t good enough. I had a childhood that constantly crushed me over and over again. Yet, I decided to push through it all. I changed every limiting belief I had to an empowering belief, and I said these beliefs to myself constantly because I was not going to hide behind a wall any longer.

It’s in our human nature to react and respond to things that are scary or uncomfortable. We tell ourselves lies to feel better, but the truth is, we’re doing ourselves more harm than good. Start by making a list of all your limiting beliefs. Then, beside each belief, write it in a positive tone. For example, I am not good enough becomes I am good enough. Review this list daily until these become your new beliefs.

TAKE ACTION

I did publish my book: Breaking Through the Storm; Transform Pain into Power Through Gratitude and Forgiveness. I pushed through my fears. I put blinders on and focused on my end goal. I’m proud to say I did it! My book became the #1 new release the day it launched, and become a #1 bestseller the first week of its launch. People who read my story sent me emails and messages saying how inspiring my story was to them. That’s when I knew it had all been worth it.

If I had taken the easy road, I don’t know where my life would be right now. Instead, that one action has led me to guest on several podcasts, start my own blog: The Imperfectly Perfect Life, and I have become a professional accountability partner to help others achieve their goals. I have realized my passion is helping and serving others. That’s where my greatest joy in life comes from. I became a mindset and personal growth coach, and I am currently in the process of creating an online digital course to help women achieve their dreams.

It all started because I learned how to break through what was holding me back in life, and I took massive action despite how scared I was and despite the lack of faith I had in myself.

Hard is the price of admission. The door that opened up to my dreams required a lot of hard work, a lot of hard decisions, and a lot of hard life experiences. But I did it, I overcame it, and I am on the path for greatness. I challenge you to do the same.

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