What is Sisterhood?

According to Merriam-Webster.com, sisterhood is the solidarity of women based on shared conditions, experiences, or concerns. Putting the definition in our own words, we express what sisterhood means to us below.

  • Debbie’s Point of View: Sisterhood is a flourishing relationship between real sisters or it’s when women come together and develop a closeness to where they share an unbreakable bond. It can be two women or a group of women.

As I think about the question, I can’t help think about my childhood.  When I was young, I would have died to have a sister. I was an only girl with three brothers, and always felt shorted since all my friends and cousins had sisters; everybody, except me. I even questioned God. I could never understand why I didn’t have a sister. As I grew older, I developed some friendships, and over the years, we have moved on with our lives, separately. The thing that bothered me the most, I questioned if I was more of a friend to them than they were to me. I felt that way because I initiated all the calls, so it made me question their friendships. I didn’t understand why our relationships were so one-sided. Then, I realized a saying by an unknown author is true: Some people come into your life for a reason, some for a season and some for a lifetime. With that thought, I realized two friends from my childhood are for keeps, and our bond is unbreakable. In addition, in place of my former friends who moved on, my two daughters have become a part of my sisterhood, of which, I truly cherish.

What I know for sure as we get older is that new bonds and relationships are developed; and that’s what I found in Rhonda and Nadine. We met in church, worked on the church newsletter, and after years, have taken our sisterhood to the next level. We call it a divine intervention that brought us together to start this blog. With that said, I’m looking forward to a long, engaging, and loving bond with my sisters, Rhonda and Nadine, as we move into the next phase of our life in business, friendship, and sisterhood.

Just as I plan continued growth with them, I hope you as our readers can feel our passion, love and excitement, and chose to bond with us. Join in this sisterhood by subscribing to our blog. “Hand in hand, moment by moment, and heart to heart, let’s make this sisterhood great!”

  • Rhonda’s Point of View: Sisterhood is a powerful relationship among women. It does not matter if you have biological sisters or women you consider to be sisters, the relationship is like no other — extraordinary.  

I have many sisters in my life, two are biological, the others are cousins and friends I’ve met along the way. Each has impacted my life with their presence and knowledge.  For example, a high school classmate and I reconnected over 26 years ago after I purchased the house next door to her sister. We were not close in high school but the paths of our lives were similar, even though there were some differences. Those experiences allowed us to help one another. For instance, she taught me it’s never wrong to be who I am, and to not be ashamed of being myself. Her insight really opened my eyes and boosted my confidence. On the other hand, my lessons to her were to take a chance, and to trust a woman (me) who was not her birth sister. In doing so, we could be a true blessing to each other. We were both grateful to have learned these lessons. With that being said, I now consider her “my sister from another mother.”

However, I usually gravitate towards my biological sisters to bond in situations related to family that I would not normally discuss with anyone. And at other times, I bond with my friends as it relates to socializing and sharing ideas about specific topics. Doing so, does not diminish my individual relationships, but gives me the opportunity to have a special bond unique to each sister. I like this because it allows me and that sister to develop a togetherness that no one can sever.

Oftentimes, each of us need someone to share a conversation, listen to our concerns, seek guidance, laugh with, and yes, even a shoulder to cry on. We understand, and that’s why we want to be here for you.  

As Debbie has suggested, we hope you will discern our heart’s desire to bond with us and all the “sisters” in your life. Join us as we connect and share in the building of sisterhoods by subscribing to our blog.

  • Nadine’s Point of View: At the time of this writing, Nadine was unavailable to write her full point of view. However, she did want us to state when she thinks of sisterhood, there are a few words that come to mind: togetherness, a bond, partners, family, like-minded, support, love, community and fellowship, just to name a few. She also included that sisterhood is a lifeline.

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What are 3 examples of how sisterhood experiences helped or inspired you?

12 thoughts on “What is Sisterhood?”

  1. What is sisterhood to me? An organization of women with a common interest, as for social, genuine concern, support and to build each other (self-esteem). I particularly can relate to this article because I have two sisters who are very dear to my heart. My biologically sister and my best friend sister from another mother. I feel blessed that I can reach out to either of these ladies and know that they will always have my back. Some women, however, are not as blessed. With that being said several years ago I started Fierce and Fabulous Divas for that very reason. A network where women of all ages, races and backgrounds can come together and establish a sisterhood/extended family. We network, socialize, support, fellowship and travel together. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting several widows who said after they loss their husbands this group kept them from being lonely, ladies who recently moved to Maryland with no friends and newly divorced women who just needed a friend to go out to dinner or movie with. Sisterhood is a powerful thing that everyone should strive to have in their life. I look forward to growing old with my DIVA sisters they are truly my extended family.

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    1. Hi Bernadette,

      Thanks for responding! What an awesome thing to do, create a sisterhood tribe. You saw a need, stepped up and fulfilled a void. In doing so, you created “Fierce and Fabulous Diva.” If more women would, instead of turning away, they offer a hand and give of themselves as you have; the world would be a better place, especially within the black community, and among women. Yes, sisterhood is everything and that’s what we hope to accomplish with this blog…is to bring women of all colors, races, ethnic backgrounds together to create a common bond. In fact, we have an upcoming article called “Women to Women” where we will be having a 30 day women’s challenge #30daywomenschallenge. We hope you will participate and share it on your social media pages as we want as many women as possible to participate. Let’s make this go viral!

      Being a women that grew up with no sisters, I love when I can find and relate to other sisters. That why what you are doing is important. Keeping making a difference. We wish you and all your Diva sisters the best as y’all continue to grow and explore living together on one accord. So awesome!

      Stay tuned for more post and remember to share.

      Thanks so much!
      Debbie and Rhonda

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    1. Hi Norma,

      Thanks for subscribing. We’re so excited to have you as a follower and we look forward to you reading them and commenting, as well. Oh, and please share it.

      Thanks so much!
      Debbie and Rhonda

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  2. 😂😂😂😂…
    Debbie, it was that I didn’t use my 1st name, my blog identity automatically came up…
    That’s my middle name and bday….no wonder it gave me issues trying to comment with my as you said “REAL NAME”(1st name)

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    1. Oh wow, that’s funny. Thanks for responding anyway and I hope you follow us. If you haven’t already, can you go to the side bar and push Follow via Blog and it will send you to the box to enter your email address, then click follow.

      Thanks again,
      Debbie

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  3. Greetings,
    As women, we all need to have some type of healthy support system in our lives. A sisterhood is just that. A positive connection of women with like-minded agendas and goals. I thoroughly enjoyed this blog because it is a good read and very relatable.

    I agree with Necie that sisterhood starts with self. We must learn to value ourselves prior to entering a friendship/sistership with anyone else. Unfortunately, it does not seem to happen that way. We normally make friends prior to understanding who we are, what we need, or what we have to offer. This often causes sisterhoods to break. Understanding who we are is a key component for long-lasting sisterhood relationships.

    A few positive experiences I’ve had are:

    1) The relationship I have with my mother. She is my rock. She is always there for me no matter what. When I need to laugh, cry, vent, yell, etc…. She is always there. She has encouraged me when I could not encourage myself. She has been my cheerleader at all times. She never judges my decisions; whether good or bad. She has pushed me to try harder. Some may not view a mother or mother-figure as a sisterhood, but I do. I would be lost without her.

    2) Secondly, a new sister friend I made. We are still learning each other and growing closer; however, she has helped me when I felt uninspired and drained by the world. We actually helped each other, because she was feeling the same way when we connected. Our experiences caused us to connect. She uplifts me and I do the same for her. She keeps me connected spiritually. She is a pure blessing. She came at a time when I felt that I had to keep everything to myself and that no one understood what I was going through. I thank God for her because she really helped me start my healing process within myself.

    3) Lastly, you won’t believe it, but a few negative experiences made positive impacts on my life. As this blog states, “Some people come into your life for a reason, some for a season and some for a lifetime.” With that said, I understand that not everyone is meant to stay in your life. I have learned how to cherish my self-worth and also how to forgive because of these detrimental sisterhoods. Forgiving these ladies from my past has allowed my heart to be free of negativity towards them. It has also allowed me to only accept those into my life that will build me up and not tear me down. For that, I am forever grateful.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us! I look forward to reading more.

    Cheers,
    Kira J.

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    1. Hi Kira,

      Your comment was full of insight. You covered the full spectrum of sisterhood from starting with self, and learning the woman you are in order to be a better woman with a sister friend. How important!

      In addition, you spoke about the experiences with a mother, which can be so valuable… having a mother in your corner no matter what. It truly is a blessing to have that kind of relationship with a mother because unfortunately some don’t have that connection with theirs. Then like you said, there are those you meet along the way and you just feel a connection that continues to grow. Finally, as you stated, there are those that you learn from because of the negative impact they had your life that gave you positive results. And one of the most important things you said about the negative sisterhood is that you learned to forgive them in order to move on free of animosity.

      The truth is we should thank God for all the good and the bad sisterhoods because they helped make us who we are. Thanks for your comment and we look forward to more comments from you.

      Take care!
      Debbie and Rhonda

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  4. I’m the youngest of 5 and my 2 sisters are 18 and 20 yrs olde and brothers were 10 and 11 yrs older yrs older, so I felt like the only child for years… met quite a few true to the heart sister’s throughout the years… I was always in a working field that required dealing with the public , some mainly females and I them and now attract younger females who looks uti and respects me off the back (respects me enough to ask for advice), because I keep it all the way real, no sugar coating.. I have a hamdful, handpicked females from various states that I honestly consider as my “TRUE BLUE SISTER’S FROM ANOTHER MISTER”.. We don’t have to talk to or see each other everyday but there’s that text or call, just to see how each other’s doing…
    I met Debbie years before she was a mom or wife and we clicked, lost contact for over 30 years (I relocated to Knoxville) , found he5 on social media and and we kinda picked up where we left off..
    Again, you can go hours, days, months even years without contact but when reunited, TRUE SISTERHOOD picks right back up
    CONGRATS and Good Luck ladies (Debbie and Rhonda..), with your Sisterhood Blog…

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    1. Hi Maria516,

      Thanks for responding. It was a joy reading your comment. In fact, You didn’t use your real name, but I know who you are simply because we are true sister friends in life. After 30 years, you are right, we reconnected just like time had never come between us. I’m so glad to have you back sharing in our sisterhood. Please continue to comment, support and follow us. And oh yeah, don’t forget to share it.

      Thanks,
      Debbie and Rhonda

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  5. True Sisterhood (blood or not) is a state of mind and a way of being. Here’s my take on a few of my sisterhood experiences:
    1) Sisterhood starts with me. I must be steadfast and comfortable with who I am. I can’t show up expecting to take without giving. One relationship where my sister-friend encouraged me to stop playing small. I trusted and respected her, and it gave me the courage to go farther. It was her honesty and genuine care for my well-being.
    2) My sister is not my enemy or competition. What’s for me will always be mine, and what’s for her will always be hers. I had a friend who constantly gave me referrals when I first began my coaching practice. What she told me was – “Look, I can’t serve everybody and there’s more than enough people for every coach out there.” It was then that I honed my niche and stopped trying to be a “jack of all trades” kind of coach – best advice ever!!
    3) We must always operate with genuine love, concern and authenticity. No more of this fakeness, pretense (I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine). We all want to be used, just not abused or taken advantage of. I know women who are always giving so I try my best to pour back into them, help where THEY need and be there to support in any way I can without expectation. It’s called relationship.
    Thanks for sharing such a great conversation!

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    1. Hi Necie,

      Thanks for being our very first person (sister) to comment. We appreciate your support, and loved reading your response. Tt was both, informative and impactful. We agree whole-heartedly with you and how you said it’s important to have sister-friends who are honest and genuine, and that believe in giving back as a way of paying it forward. Looking forward to more of your comments in our upcoming posts.

      Thanks again,
      Debbie and Rhonda

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